It’s been a long time since I started writing this blog. Dylan was in middle school, Shane in elementary, and both are now in college. So it’s been about nine years. In all that time, I tried to concentrate my efforts on writing about parenting and my experiences living with children with learning differences. I thought it would be helpful for other parents to hear about my ongoing struggles since both boys have issues.
But so do I.
With my empty nest looming and my site renewal complete for another three years, I am once again faced with a decision: do I keep this blog going? And if so, do I keep rambling about whatever is on my mind?
The thing is: my kids are the same age now as I was when I was terrorizing the household as a full-fledged alcoholic. So I have been thinking a lot about that. I think about what my parents survived, what I did to them, and what happened to me. I think it’s amazing that any of us got out of it alive.
I am an addict and an alcoholic; the terms, for me, are interchangeable.
Having just celebrated my 30th year of sobriety, it’s hard not to look back. At the same time, I realize that most people – probably 90% of the world’s population, actually – don’t have a drinking problem, and therefore don’t understand what it’s like to be an addict. Alcoholics and addicts are generally viewed as weak, sad troublemakers who should be able to control themselves.
Most importantly, even in active addiction, addicts are expected to stop hurting the people who love us. And I bet that there’s not a single addict in the world who doesn’t want to stop hurting people. But most of us don’t know how. We hurt other people without intent; we only hurt ourselves intentionally.
Most addicts haven’t figured out a new way to live – and denial in active addiction is powerful stuff.
Non-alcoholics generally believe that if they say the right thing, do the right thing, act the right way, live in the right place, spend more (or less) time with, or simply give more to someone in the throes of addiction, it will help an addict to recover.
In fact, it’s the complete opposite: no addict can recover as long as someone is trying to help. Every little thing done to “help” enables the addict to keep going, to keep believing that life can stay comfortable and sane in spite of the chaos they’re creating.
Basically, I had to be dropped on my head in order to get clean. It was the only way. It is the only way.
Of course, it’s only my story that I can tell; the rest of the world’s addicts will have to tell their own. So rather than randomly shift the focus of my blog from parenting to blabbering about my opinions, I thought I might give my six devoted readers some insight into what’s coming next. I plan to blog, now, about my alcoholism, addiction and recovery.
I am also giving my parents (two of my six devoted readers) a chance to run away, quickly, so as not to relive – or inspect – my alcoholism in this way. It wasn’t pretty. But I plan to blog about it and hope that it helps someone, somewhere.
I know it will help me. I’ve always thought I should write a book about my life, but I don’t have nearly enough self-discipline. So here goes: blog shift! I hope it works out okay.
If I stay sober today, tomorrow I will celebrate 30 years of sobriety. Officially, in my mind, this means that I’m an “old timer.” And being an old timer means I get special applause at Alcoholics Anonymous conventions. This was my only goal in sobriety, that someday I would get the special applause.
Newcomers often ask old timers, “How did you get 30 years of sobriety?” And old timers say: “You don’t drink and you don’t die.”
Quite honestly, that is how I got here. At this point in my life, I believe it was much easier to stay sober than it was to stay alive. It’s not that I’ve had so many (sober) brushes with death, but I’m kind of a hypochondriac.
So I didn’t drink and I didn’t die for three times longer than the bulk of my drinking. I was plastered between the ages of 15 to 25 – 10 solid years – and then I spent another three years wrestling with relapses.
In my head, this much sobriety can’t be possible. My mind races every day with things that happened to me during those 10 years. I have flashbacks; I have vivid memories. I never, ever, ever forget where I came from.
Remembering my past does not keep me from complaining about my first world problems – like a restaurant giving me the wrong pizza. In fact, remembering where I came from only means that I feel pretty grateful, underneath all the complaining, about 97% of the time. The other 3% of the time, I am so distracted by my complaints that I forget to be grateful.
I am reminded though, every night, that my life is a miracle. It’s really, truly a miracle. And I thank God for that.
Thirty years is a long time. I could never have stayed sober for that long. The only thing I did was stay sober for one day. And then the next day, I managed to do it again. I got a lot of help from AA, family and friends, but mostly from God.
Other than divine intervention, one simple principle saved my life: One Day At A Time. I can’t stay sober for my entire life! It’s unbearable, the thought of doing anything for my entire life. But for one day, I can do almost anything.
Every day, I make the conscious decision not to drink or do drugs. And I’ve made that decision for 10,956 days.
Sometimes, though, I had to break it down into smaller sections. There were days when I would watch the second hand go around on my clock – TICK TICK TICK – sometimes for hours. I watched that second hand not until midnight, because I wasn’t waiting for a new day. I watched until 2:00 a.m. because that’s when the bars closed.
That’s when I finally felt safe. From 2:00 to 7:00 a.m., I could rest.
I am aware of the insanity of such desperation – the near inability to hold myself back from consuming a substance that, for me, is poison. Fortunately I learned, as the days went by, how to be less obsessed with alcohol and more concerned with learning how to live without it.
For 30 years, in fact, I’ve been learning to live without alcohol. “Learning to live” – changing, growing, adapting, adjusting, fighting hard to grow up while not losing my childlike wonder. It’s been an awesome challenge.
Still, not dying was much harder. That’s the part over which I have absolutely no control.
Pizza and movie night – a time-honored tradition in our home – didn’t work out so well last week.
I splurged for “real Italian” food since their gluten-free pizza is the best around, and I am highly gluten-intolerant. Since Bill is trying hard to do less gluten himself, we ordered two gluten-free pizzas from an Italian trattoria 35-40 minutes from home. Bill picked it up on his way home from work.
Meanwhile, Shane – who was dog sitting – had to feed the dogs before picking up his own glutenous pizza at a shop much closer to home. I ordered it for him at 6:10 so that he could pick up at 6:45.
But when he arrived to pick up the pizza, it was after 7:00 – and the pizza was not there. Staff had never put in the order. The guy who answered the phone took my credit card number then, apparently, left for the night.
After a very convoluted phone call, we were able to get 50% off the price of the pizza that started cooking a full hour after it was ordered.
Bill and I were getting hungry by the time Shane got home at 7:45 – so we tossed our pizza into the microwave and sat down to eat. Bill, as always, had 42 toppings and melty cheese. My cheese, however, was not melty. In fact, it wasn’t right at all. I got a white pizza with no toppings and four kinds of cheese, so it should have been plenty melty.
I ate a whole piece, complaining about the cheese the whole time, before I realized that my pizza was not gluten-free. I hadn’t purposefully eaten gluten in years, yet I didn’t recognize a difference in taste. It was the thick, gooey texture that alerted me.
By this time, it was almost 8:00. I called and got the pizza for free, but I have to admit: I would have rather paid for the pizza and eaten it. Instead, and again … Cheerios were my only quick option.
By this point, I was nearly in tears over pizza.
Eventually I got sucked into the movie – Kimi, which was great – and forgot about my pizza. But afterward, while walking the dog, I had one recurring thought: Food can’t be my reward.
For two glorious days leading up to The Pizza Incident of ’22, I had eaten well. In fact, I’d eaten nothing but fruits, vegetables and nuts for two full days. And I ordered that pizza as a reward for good behavior.
So when my pizza arrived destined to make me painfully sick, my first thought was: I’ll go get ice cream.
But after two days of eating and feeling well, pizza and ice cream are not going to make me feel better. They are going to taste good and raise my cholesterol. They are going to ensure that I don’t lose a single pound no matter how much I exercise. Pizza and ice cream are not rewards. They are just foods, and they are foods that make me feel lousy.
But if feeling good were enough of a reward, I could just eat fruits and vegetables forever. Why do I constantly reward myself with something that makes me feel bad? I would really like to change this behavior.
When I was a kid, we had an enormous console stereo – six feet long, as big as a desk with speakers built into both ends. I’d carefully open the six-foot long lid and inside, miraculously, lived a radio, an 8-track player and a truly beloved turntable to play the albums that my dad brought home on special occasions.
At least twice, my dad brought home new Olivia Newton-John albums: Don’t Stop Believin’ and If Not For You. The liner notes included lyrics, which my dad would excitedly remove from the sleeve as the music started. Then he would read and sing along, as would I, from the beginning of Side 1 all the way to the end of Side 2. When Saturday came and Dad was home from work again, we’d repeat the process. I was 10 or 12 and I treasured these moments with all my heart.
I don’t confuse my love for my dad with my love for Olivia Newton-John, but growing up with her music added an emotional component to the way I felt every time I saw her name, watched her movies, or heard her speak. I watched Grease countless times, wanting to be Olivia, wanting to have that Australian accent, those leather pants, that blonde hair, that shy/sly smile.
It physically hurts to think that no one will ever see that incredibly bright smile again.
In the 80’s, Olivia had a slew of pop hits. The controversial Physical made #1 on the charts, but Make a Move On Me was my favorite from that decade. In homage to days gone by, I taught myself to play I Honestly Love You on the guitar – something that was incredibly difficult for me, since I am no musical genius like my kids. But that song touches my heart in a way very few can.
I know she didn’t write all of her own songs, but I remember thinking Have You Never Been Mellow was the solution to my friend, Bonnie’s, ailments – and then realizing that it was the solution to mine.
When Dylan was born, and again with Shane, Olivia’s Warm and Tender played on repeat – a full album of lullabies made especially for infants. I doubt that Dylan remembers his first year cradled in her music, but when the news broke that she’d died, Dylan texted me within minutes. His favorite ONJ song is Don’t Stop Believin’ – which he knows by heart, having been raised with the CDs of my dad’s albums.
We all knew she had cancer, that she was doing well, that she was in remission, and that it returned, that she was doing poorly, that she was a trooper until the very last moment of her very beautiful life of giving to those of us who did nothing but soak in that beauty.
Still it seems wrong, somehow, to outlive this person whose music was such a strong soundtrack for my life, for so many lives. It seems like she should have outlived us all. She gave me so much for so long.
There’s a line from A Thousand Conversations that made me cry when I was 12, when I thought my childhood was over and that I’d never be able to go back – which, of course, was true even then. I’d sing this song to myself at night, crying myself to sleep.
I suppose it’s more appropriate now than ever before.
“Guess it’s finally goodbye – seems we came so suddenly to the end of childhood dreams and the way things used to be.“
When Dylan was still in elementary school, we found a personal ADHD savior by the name of Kirk Martin, the man who founded Celebrate Calm. We learned that Dylan was built by design to be exactly like he is: brilliant and bouncy and extraordinary. Finally, we found an answer to parenting Dylan: allow him to be him, and stop trying to force him to be like everyone else.
This was hard for me – not because I didn’t love Dylan being Dylan, but because I am who I am. I am detail-oriented and organized and those characteristics have gotten me through many years of social confusion. It’s how I live, how I survive in a chaotic world; I take control of what I can.
I watched Dylan struggle in school because he forgot to do his work and then, when he did do it, he left it at home, lost it in his own backpack, or simply never turned it in. So I tried to help by introducing all the ways I knew to survive these issues. And Dylan, after many years of my attempts to help, decided that I was the problem because I was forcing him to do something that did not come naturally.
But I had Celebrate Calm in my back pocket. I introduced him to work-as-play. I taught him that it’s okay to be who he is, to do what is important to him. I spent years fighting the school system, explaining that he just needed to stand up and move around sometimes. I fought with principals and teachers and even other parents. I fought for the right for him to do things his way, while instructing him on how to play the game – even though he did things differently.
Dylan didn’t see me fighting for him. He didn’t see me stomping my feet in the front office. He didn’t hear my conversations with the principals. He didn’t watch me scour the internet for hours for answers that would allow him to be him. He didn’t do hours of research on private schools. He didn’t read the emails to the teachers. He didn’t go to the IEP meetings.
Now he doesn’t remember the times I gave him the ultimate freedoms to be himself, to learn to love himself for who he is, to do the things he loves most. He doesn’t remember the years we toured alternate schools, or how much he hated the private school that – finally – allowed him to be himself.
Dylan doesn’t remember begging me to let him go back to public school. He only remembers me telling him to do his homework and turn it in.
He doesn’t remember the four years of cheeseburgers, water parks, horseback rides and segway tours, when we were “looking at colleges.” He just remembers being forced to sit still, again, once he got there.
This might explain why Dylan said to me, while we were exploring Italy on our glorious two-week vacation: “Mom, would you back me if I dropped out of college? I just want to drive boats or work on a farm or something.”
I told him that I would back him no matter what he decided. But I reminded him that he is on track to graduate next summer, even though he took a semester off. And I reminded him that he might want to have that degree when he’s done driving boats and working on farms.
Dylan has decided to go ahead and finish college. Maybe he will actually drive boats afterward. I don’t care what he does; I just want him to have one more year to transition.
Dylan doesn’t know yet how hard it will be on his own.
I was three years old, living in Pittsburgh, when Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood debuted. I was just the right age and in just the right place.
I have seen enough of the show to know all the characters, both puppet and human, and I have always loved that darned owl. I watched it with my own children, too.
But my mother actually remembers me watching the show. She came into the room and saw me staring at the television as Mister Rogers discussed the possibility of being sucked down the drain.
“Are you afraid of the drain?” she asked me, thinking it was the silliest thing in the world. And I nodded, wide-eyed and terrified, waiting for Mister Rogers to assure me that I wasn’t going into that dark hole.
It was during high school – summer school actually – that Mister Rogers found me again.
After each class, I would sit on the wall outside of Central Catholic High School and wait for my ride.
On one such day, Mister Rogers happened to be driving out of WQED next door. He was just sitting there in the driver’s seat in his cardigan sweater.
Mister Rogers saw me on that wall – a scared, pained teenager – and he smiled and waved, like we were old chums. He had no idea that we actually were old chums, or that I felt utterly humiliated because I was in summer school after all the good things he’d taught me as a child.
I raised my hand in response, the world’s fastest wave, scared to death of what he might think of me.
A decade went by before I saw him again. I’d graduated from high school and college, and I wanted desperately to work in children’s television. After much ado, I got a meeting with the producer of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood to offer my services as a volunteer.
The producer walked while he talked, and I followed him around WQED-TV. Suddenly a man with glasses and a familiar smile appeared; it wasn’t until he spoke that I recognized Fred Rogers standing right in front of me.
My heart stopped for a moment as I shook Fred’s hand and whispered, “Nice to meet you.” I didn’t mention that day after summer school; I was afraid it might hinder my chances of being hired.
I wasn’t hired anyway, even as a volunteer, maybe because I froze and provided no witty banter.
Recently I’ve listened to a podcast called Finding Fred, which recounts stories from people who met Mister Rogers, and focuses on how he changed their lives. It’s a beautiful series and the only podcast that’s intrigued me since the word “podcast” became a thing.
It’s so beautiful, in fact, that I don’t want to listen to the last episode. I’m saving it.
It’s crazy to think that this man still influences my thinking, but he does – not because he waved or shook my hand, but because he taught me that we’re not all going to get sucked down the drain. He taught me that fear is okay, but so is courage. He taught me that grieving is okay, and so is exuberance. He taught me that I’m okay – that I’m okay – just the way I am.
And even though I buried that thought midway through the fifth grade, deep down inside of me, it still cries out quietly sometimes from very far away: I’m okay.
I think that’s why seeing Mister Rogers in person meant so much to me, and why I’ve cherished those two tiny moments for so long.
Mister Rogers says I’m okay. So maybe I am.
This past Christmas – Shane’s last in high school, and Dylan’s first as a 21-year-old – I wanted to create a lasting memory, one that encouraged me to overlook the devastating view of missing limbs on the Sequoia tree we planted when the kids were young. So we planted another tree: our Christmas tree.
It was tough finding a tree that we could transport home to be planted – and even harder keeping the tree healthy through the season. We couldn’t take it inside and decorate it; we left it in the garage for three weeks. Then, just before Christmas, we wheeled it inside, threw a tarp down and a bucket on the living room floor, and we decorated that tree.
It was four feet shorter than any tree we’d had before. We barely put on any ornaments. But this tree was going to last forever, so it was worth having a lower-key holiday.
As soon as Christmas was over, we tossed two strings of lights into their box, tore off the limited ornaments and the garland, and we wheeled that tree back outside. Having researched for weeks, we dug the appropriately sized hole and we put the tree where it could finally let its roots expand and find a place in the earth. We cut off the burlap around its roots with the utmost care, and allowed the tree its chance to shine.
Then we left it outside for the rest of the winter. There was plenty of water but it was bitterly cold. Spring came, and our clay-based yard flooded, as it does every year. Our yard was a swamp. The tree started to turn yellow from too much water, so I wrapped a plastic bag around its roots, hoping that would help. It didn’t.
Our beloved Christmas tree continued to turn brown in early summer but Bill said, “It has new growth! It has new growth!” To Bill, this meant that the tree was doing fine. So I contacted the landscaper who said it was normal to get some browning in early summer as the seasons change. It wasn’t bad, so I let it go.
Then, quite abruptly, in late July, a gust of wind came through that took out everything in its path. Fortunately, our Christmas tree was six feet outside of its path – but our neighbor’s 100-foot tree dropped right next to it. The whole world was stunned into silence.
Within a week, the tree guys came with their saws and their rage and they took away the tree that had fallen.
We don’t know if trees think. Obviously they don’t have brains; they don’t think in any way that we recognize. But right then and there, as soon as that tree fell, our little Christmas tree started to die.
There was a heat wave, too, right after the storm – a blistering, affects-everything front – where the humidity was unbearable and the temperature regularly neared a hundred degrees. There was no rain.
Since we planted it just out of reach of the hose, I carried buckets of water and poured them on its roots. Finally, Bill attached a second hose to the first one, so we could reach the tree. We gave it water in the mornings hoping to ward off its destruction.
Our tree is still standing in our yard – but it is half brown, and half green. We don’t know what to do. We don’t know how to save it. We don’t know if we can.
With Dylan long gone and Shane leaving in the fall, my dog lying injured at my feet, I don’t know if I can bear any more loss. It’s too much for me.
So there’s this guy named Scott. Technically his name is Charles – he is named after his father, who is 93 years old now – but Scott goes by his middle name. I wonder if his father influenced this decision.
Scott believes that he is above the law. Scott believes that what matters most is what Scott wants. He doesn’t care if his desires hurt anyone else. In fact, he expects that someone will get hurt, but this thought doesn’t change his actions.
Scott is 64 years old. He should know better, but he does not.
Scott went out for a walk with his dogs on Monday night. He has two very large dogs, pit bulls, but he does not see a need to put a leash on his dogs, even when he’s walking in a public park where parents stroll with their children and where other animals also stroll.
So when one dog – his white one – got away from him, it wasn’t a big deal to Scott. And when the white one started sniffing Loki, my poodle mix, Scott wasn’t even around. He was hanging with his black dog who, eventually, also appeared next to Loki.
Scott approached the three dogs without much concern. Loki got startled and barked; he tried to back away. But Loki wasn’t quick enough. Scott’s black dog lunged for Loki, grabbed him by the throat, and threw my dog to the ground like a chew toy.
Scott didn’t have a leash to pull back his dog. He didn’t have any recourse except to dive into the bloody mess that his dog was making, and pull his dog’s jaws out of my dog’s throat.
Loki was screaming, yelping, bleeding, crying out in pain, snapping at the air like a dying animal trying to break free from its assassin.
In the chaos, Scott was bitten in the face.
After Loki was wrenched free and being carried to the safety of his car, blood gushing over his white curls, Scott said, “Your dog bit me; I’m going to the doctor.”
Scott implied that, since both he and Loki were bleeding, we were all “even.”
He implied that being bitten in the face while wrenching his dog’s jaws out of my dog’s throat was payment enough for what happened to Loki. But nothing will ever be payment enough for what happened to Loki.
Scott took his dogs home.
We took our dog to the vet, where Loki spent hours in surgery. He came out with a drainage tube on one side of his neck, where blood was still pooling two days later. Loki has four puncture wounds from giant teeth being embedded in his skin. His neck is bruised like someone beat him with a tire iron.
Loki is lucky to be alive. We will never, ever be “even.”
Scott didn’t give us his name, or offer to pay the vet bills. He didn’t make sure our dog was okay. He didn’t even ask about Loki as he hauled his animals away. Scott is all about Scott.
It never occurred to Scott to apologize for his gross negligence. I wonder if Scott would know how to apologize for anything at all.
Loki is going to be okay. Scott’s dogs are also going to be okay.
Sadly, so is Scott.
When we press charges, Scott will have to pay a few fines. He might be ordered to pay some of Loki’s vet bills. The dog will be labeled as “potentially dangerous” and he will need to be leashed and muzzled outside.
But Scott will continue to do whatever he wants.
Both of my boys had somehow escaped COVID – until now.
Dylan lived in Tennessee for the vast majority of the pandemic, which means he went unmasked and didn’t care. He believed he’d be fine as long as he didn’t bring home the virus to his aging relatives. Two years went by with Dylan regularly spitting into microphones used by other singers, going to concerts and house parties and shows, and Dylan did not get the virus.
Then he went to Italy and came home with COVID. He was the only one in our group who contracted the virus, and we have no idea why, except that he was always the one person who didn’t have a mask when it was required.
Shane took a different approach. After more than a year of online school, he wore a mask at school every day. When the mask requirements were lifted at school, well into his senior year, he still wore a mask. He took it off to eat, far away from other people. He was careful and meticulous.
When he went to concerts, which was rare and recent, he stood in the back of the room away from the crowds. When we got a notification from the state telling him that someone at a concert he’d attended had contracted COVID, Shane was concerned, but not much. He’d spent the evening in front of an open door, wearing a mask.
For graduation, I stupidly bought Shane two tickets to a huge metal festival in Ohio, so that he and Dylan could enjoy four days of unlimited music. They stayed in an Air BnB and drove back and forth to the festival every day, even when it poured down rain on the last day. Because they were outdoors, in spite of the crowds, they didn’t bother masking. No one bothered masking.
Shane got COVID at the festival.
Both boys are doing fine now; they say it’s like a bad cold, but the first two days were pretty rough for both of them. I think back on my first few days with the same virus, different variant, before vaccinations were widespread and when desperation was everywhere, and I think the boys did pretty well.
I’ve spent a lot of time afraid of COVID. I was worried about Dylan, about his reactive airways disease. I was worried about myself because of my autoimmune disorder. I was worried about Shane on the day that he slept for 36 hours. I am still worried about my husband, who is older and hasn’t had it. Yet.
But I am less afraid now than I was before. I am hopeful that those who want to live will be able to be vaccinated, that the severity of the disease will lessen to such an extent that we can live with it, the way we live with a cold and the flu.
I don’t want to live with it; I want it gone. But what choice do we have?
The first time we visited Lawrence University, smack dab in the middle of the pandemic, Shane had a personal interview with an admissions rep. In spite of the barren campus, he was smiling so wide under his mask that it showed in his eyes.
Our tour guide was … interesting. With kind eyes and an almost palpable awkwardness, she was nearly bald, having shaved her head weeks earlier. Students were scarce, so we learned about the music conservatory, the science building, and academia.
At the end of the tour, Shane said, “I like it here.” For Shane, that’s a powerful emotional statement.
So we went back to visit Lawrence when the pandemic had waned. Our second visit offered a more traditional guide, and the campus was alive with busy students. Our guide seemed to know every one of them. The guide somehow hadn’t gotten a key card, so she asked students to help her get into buildings as we walked. She never skipped a beat, and her friends never blinked before helping.
By the end of that open house, Shane loved Lawrence. Everything was on-target with what Shane wanted. Students and professors seemed genuine and solid. They had answers – good answers – for every question. They described an academic experience fueled by its unique, close-knit community.
Lawrence was intuitive. Once I told Shane: “I wish I knew how many students came from other states, other than Wisconsin and Illinois.” Ten minutes later, I found a printed map on a table, detailing exactly how many students came from each of the states; I didn’t even need to ask. Best of all, the student population hailed from everywhere.
There were no mistakes, no issues, no challenges during the open house. And when we left, we were both a little sorry to go.
Shane did a number of informative, helpful Zoom sessions with Lawrence while waiting for his acceptance – which arrived with a hefty scholarship. There were phone sessions for students and parents – also helpful. Every time we did anything with Lawrence, it was good. No red flags.
Shane was concerned, at one point, that Lawrence was too perfect. So he asked the Zoom students, “What do you like least about Lawrence?” The students really considered this. Finally one said, “There’s not enough merch.” Other than the cold weather, they couldn’t think of anything else.
While Shane never wavered in his affection for Lawrence, the pièces de résistance was an email I received from the Director of Financial Aid, reassuring me that he understood what I was feeling. He had two kids in college and truly understood. It was brilliantly written and brought me to tears.
When we went back for the Lawrence University Experience – reserved for admitted students and their families – Lawrence had been Shane’s top choice for months. Before the event, Shane met with a student who showed him around for hours. Then, from Sunday through late Monday, Lawrence offered an opportunity for parents to choose their sessions while students attended classes and explored campus with their peers. The “experience” was – like everything else Lawrence did – nearly flawless. (We had some technical issues with one projector, so it wasn’t perfect.)
By the time we left, Shane felt like he belonged there. He’d spent hours and hours with “his people.” Lawrence offered him the perfect combination of intellectual enthusiasm and social inclusion. Still, he took several days to think it through, to decide if Lawrence was the right place for him. After seeing nearly a hundred colleges, he wanted to be sure.
By College Decision Day, Shane was sure. He will attend Lawrence University.
