After the amazingly timed shooting star and my realization that I would never find happiness in alcohol, I quit drinking and never looked back. I suddenly had the foresight to see where my life had been heading, and knew that I didn’t want to go there. I awoke with a completely new attitude. I knew what I wanted, so I instantly created an entirely new life for myself. I became truly enlightened, turned myself around, and never forgot from whence I’d come.
Oh, how I want that to be my story.
I want it so badly, I can taste it still, three decades after the fact.
I knew that 1987 was the worst year of my life. To this day, I maintain that there was never a worse year.
I’d spent night after night after night wailing along to my boom box in a filthy kitchen as I drank beer and chain-smoked, lonely beyond any concept of loneliness I could have ever imagined. I’d been brutally attacked and raped and my “boyfriend” – an old man (39) I didn’t even like – had doubted the truth of my story. My favorite bar was ruined by a night I’d stayed too long. I’d gone to two Bike Weeks and what I remembered best was being humiliated into begging half-naked for a t-shirt and sleeping in mud puddles next to the world’s worst port-o-johns.
To get out of the mess I’d made of my life, I’d even tried to kill myself – but I was still alive.
My very best night I had in 1987 was one I don’t even remember. But for one brief, glorious moment the next morning, I’d believed I’d finally gotten away from the hellhole I’d created.
So in 1988, after a Sure Sign from God had blazed across the sky just for my benefit, I had no idea what to do next, except to not-drink for as long as possible. I thought, “I will never drink again!” And I meant it.
I had no idea it might be hard. I had God on my side, after all. I literally had God listening to me, watching me, and sending shooting stars across the sky for me. How can anyone argue with that?
Oh, how I wish I’d turned my life around in January of 1988.
But I am an alcoholic. And there is nothing about my brain that isn’t affected by the insanity of my addiction. So no matter what my resolve, no matter what I’d wanted with every ounce of my sober soul, my 23-year-old self had no idea how to make it happen.
This is how Alcoholics Anonymous saves lives. People who have lived through alcoholism and addiction who want to stop but don’t know how – they can learn how to stop inside AA. There’s a whole Big Book about it. There are not a few but hundreds of thousands of people who have gotten sober by following a path that two guys laid out for hopeless drunks starting with a meeting of two drunks back in 1935.
But I didn’t know about AA. I just knew I no longer wanted to drink.
(It wasn’t enough.)
But while I was in England, I fell into a space where I was the same person I’d been before I ever picked up a drink: the child of two loving parents, the sister of two loving sisters, a member of a family who happened to be traveling in the extraordinarily beautiful United Kingdom.
With the shooting star fresh in my mind, I decided I’d just go ahead and enjoy that.
I’ve heard a lot of miraculous stories during my 30+ years of sobriety, but I am the only one I know who, upon realizing that alcohol was my problem, got a literal shooting star.
I believe, to the innermost core of my being, that God sent that star. The timing wasn’t “interesting;” it was perfect. I had the revelation, and there was the star.
Suddenly I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt: alcohol was my problem. Years of denial were broken in that moment, and any doubt I ever had about the existence of God disappeared in that moment, too.
I had three days sober.
I would like to say that I literally dropped to my knees and worshipped the Good Lord Almighty like I have never worshipped before, but that’s not exactly what happened.
I stood there with my mouth hanging open, a cigarette dangling by my side, and stared at the dark space where that spectacular star had briefly lit the night sky.
And then I started to smile.
Then I started to cry.
The tears rolled down my face faster than I could feel them, but I kept staring at the space where the star had been. Somehow I expected another one to fly by.
I said it aloud again: “You can’t find happiness at the bottom of the bottle.” Nothing happened in the sky the second time, or the third, or the fourth.
I stabbed my cigarette into my makeshift ashtray and joyously cried, “You can’t find happiness in a cigarette, either!” I watched to see if that was also a shooting-star-worthy sentiment, but it was not.
I kept hoping that there was a fireworks-style showing of stars taking place just for me, somewhere in England at 3:00 in the morning, but a second star did not come.
I stared at the sky anyway, willing it to happen, doubting my own eyes even as I could never doubt again.
I stood for a long time staring, crying, laughing, crying, laughing. I stared at the sky until my neck hurt and I could no longer stare.
I’d just uncovered the key to the universe, and my discovery had been verified by the universe itself.
I had no idea what to do with myself.
So I walked into our little house in Bletchley, sat down, and cried some more. I cried blubbery sad tears interrupted by fits of giggly, choking laughter, feeling both incredibly small and incredibly special.
I finally knew the answer: I would stop drinking, and find happiness another way.
Since it was 8 a.m. in America and none of us had adjusted to European time yet, my mom randomly awoke. She wandered through the dark living room and found me giggle-sobbing on the couch.
“Are you okay?” she asked.
I looked up, my face drenched with tears. “I’ve never been more okay in my life,” I said.
I told my mother what had happened, how it happened: the whole story. I told her about my revelation about alcohol, about happiness, about God.
Mom didn’t doubt my miracle for a second.
“Oh, Kirsten,” she said, and held out her arms. We held each other in that room for a long, long time, both of us crying.
In Alcoholics Anonymous, it’s said that every alcoholic needs to hit bottom before it’s possible to get sober. That “bottom” is a point in an alcoholic’s drinking where we believe we can’t go any lower – hence the term.
On January 4, 1988, I had reached my bottom. I didn’t realize it then, but while everyone else was sleeping, I was reflecting on my life after three days without alcohol.
I ruined the Eiffel Tower, I thought. I completely ruined my trip to Paris. I spent my whole time either sleeping or bitching about everything.
I fell over in customs. I thought I was going to die. It really, really felt like I was going to die.
The plane ride resurfaced in my mind: Throwing up on the plane wasn’t pleasant either.
I puked all the time at home, I thought.
I’d often drink so much that I vomited, which made more room in my stomach for alcohol. I’d considered this a win-win situation – staying drunk and vomiting up excess calories.
But puking on the plane was bad. Vomiting in front of my family was bad.
As I reminisced about my Paris trip, I wandered out onto the back porch in Bletchley. It was the middle of the night, pitch black outside, and dead silent.
Perfect for reflection.
I lit a cigarette and stared at the sky.
My family was inside, asleep.
I thought back to the time in high school when I’d come home from a party and vomited into the toilet. My mom held my hair back for me, like she’d done when I had the flu when I was little.
My parents don’t deserve this, I thought. I am breaking their hearts and they don’t deserve this.
Standing on that porch I considered suicide, but then I remembered: it’s only been nine months since I dove out of that window and landed on my head. I remembered screaming, “What do you want from me now, God?!”
Standing on that British porch I thought: God isn’t finished with me yet.
But why would God keep making me suffer? I wondered. Not only did I jump out that window, but I was raped, too! I put a guy in jail!
And what about Larry? Why am I still living with Larry?!I hate living in Pitcairn, that dark apartment, motorcycle rides where we never go anywhere.And it’s cold in Pitcairn!
Suddenly my whole life was flashing through my brain.
I wanted to marry a rock star! Or a writer! I visualized my dream man who looked nothing like Larry, and imagined a dream life that looked nothing like mine. And why do I keep sleeping with idiot guys? And this is the first time I’ve ever traveled! My life at home sucks. I don’t like anything – nothing – about my life.
I just want to be happy, I thought. Why can’t I ever be happy?!
And then I had a thought that had never crossed my mind before – a thought so obvious and necessary, it could only be expressed in the form of a platitude.
I had the thought right there on that back porch.
It was so profound that I declared it out loud to the sky: “Well you can’t find happiness at the bottom of a bottle, Kirsten,” I said.
And just as the words came out of my mouth – at that very instant – a shooting star streaked across the British night sky.
It was the first and only shooting star I’d ever seen.
Someone was splashing water on my face when I regained consciousness. I opened my eyes.
A woman I’d never seen was standing over me, smiling, speaking some sort of jibberish.
Not jibberish, I realized. She’s speaking French.
I heard my mother’s voice behind her – or had it been my mother speaking all along? I couldn’t be sure.
I tried to speak. “Where am I?”
“We’re in Paris,” my mother said. “Are you all right?”
She didn’t mention that we were in a restroom in Paris, but I could see that as I looked around. More specifically, I was lying on the floor in a restroom in Paris. The sinks from which the splashed water came were high above me.
“I’m fine,” I said. As if I were fine.
“She’s okay,” my mom said to my sisters, as if I were okay. My mom nodded, relieved, and one of my sisters bolted out the door to tell my dad I was alive.
“What happened?”
“We think you fainted,” my mom said. Some French women helped lift me to my feet. One of them had a medical box under her arm.
I felt woozy. I wasn’t sure I could stay up.
Apparently, fainting felt exactly like dropping dead. I remembered with vivid clarity thinking: I’m going to die. Then I shoved the memory to the back of my brain and moved forward with my day.
My family eventually got through customs. We got to the home where we were staying in France. Everyone suggested I eat, but I couldn’t.
I suggested I go to bed. I slept for the rest of the day and well into the next morning.
I did not drink in Paris.
On Day Two of our Paris excursion, my family headed for the Louvre.
“That’s just a museum!” I wailed. “I don’t want to go to a museum! I’m going shopping for t-shirts.”
“But we’re going to look at the palace! And the gardens!” my mom said.
“I don’t want to look at a dumb garden.”
“You’ll miss the Mona Lisa!”
“I’ve seen the Mona Lisa in books,” I grumbled.
So while they saw the world’s most famous city their way, I shopped at street vendors seeking a t-shirt for Ronnie. “Bring me a shirt that says something French,” he’d said.
After a full day of street vendors, I learned only that Paris street vendors didn’t like me. The shirt I eventually found never fit Ronnie, and I have no idea what it said because no one would translate for me. It had a kitten on it.
On Day Three of Paris, we all went to the Eiffel Tower. This was the grand finale of our French trip, and my family was excited to see the gorgeous city of Paris from a thousand feet in the air.
At the top of the tower, though, as everyone around us admired the view, I tore into my dad with a venom that should be allocated only to snakes.
“My whole life!” I spat at him. “You moved me for my whole life! How could you think taking me to this stupid city could ever make up for what you’ve done to me! I don’t need to look out at the stupid city! I don’t care that we’re in Paris! I hate this place!”
I made our trip to the Eiffel Tower memorable indeed.
We had an uneventful flight back to London and to our little house in Bletchley, where my parents would stay for three months.
My family had planned a delightful three days in Paris, our only scheduled jaunt from London during my stay, where we would see the romantic city in all its glory.
But I made this enchanting trip very, very challenging for anyone to enjoy.
After spending New Year’s Eve partying with the Americans, I could barely hold up my head while trudging through Heathrow. Everyone was rushing but I lagged behind, my duffel slamming against my exhausted, horribly inebriated body as I dragged myself forward.
My parents kept turning around and yelling, “Kirsten! Hurry up!”
I was barely conscious of their existence. Somehow, we managed to get onto the plane in time for takeoff. Wasted beyond repair, I passed out immediately.
Within 20 minutes, I jolted awake to sudden nausea – a reaction to the flight, maybe, but definitely a reaction to the alcohol. There was no time to get to a restroom.
So THIS is what these are for, I thought, grabbing an air sickness bag from the pocket in front of my seat. I fumbled to open it – why the heck are they made like this – then I wretched several times into the bag trying to keep the vomit contained. I dry-heaved for a few minutes, then sat there holding it, wondering what to do with a bag full of puke.
Too tired and too sick to think for very long, I crumpled the top of the bag, tossed it on the ground next to me, and passed out again.
Mere moments later, we landed in Paris.
My family woke me up before it was our turn to get out of our seats, and I screamed at my parents: “Why can’t you just let me sleep?!”
I was fun.
They shrugged and started walking toward the front of the plane. Eventually and begrudgingly, I got off the plane, too.
The airport was enormous. After disembarking, we had to walk a million miles to get to wherever we were going. “Look, everything’s in French!” my mom said, pointing at signs, excited to share this experience with her children.
I didn’t care where I was, and I sure didn’t care that the signs were in French. I dragged myself and my duffel through the airport behind them, my feet slow, my brain foggy, my muscles aching, feeling like I had so often felt at home – like I’d been hit by a dump truck.
The feeling was so familiar, but the timing so inconvenient. I knew what I was doing to my family; I just couldn’t fix it. Instead I trudged forward, trying to keep up.
Having landed in a new country we had to go through customs, so eventually we stopped walking and stood in a line. I didn’t have the sense to notice how long the line was, or to pretend to be happy about Paris. I couldn’t talk or enjoy my surroundings.
I was physically incapable of doing anything except staying upright, feeling the blood sloshing aimlessly in my head, stunned into complete mental emptiness. It took all of my strength to just remain upright in the line for customs, staring at the ground, kicking my duffel along.
I stood and waited and waited some more. It felt like I’d been standing there forever, no thoughts, no feelings. Just a blob trying to turn back into a human.
And then quite quickly, without any warning and for the first time in my life, I thought: Oh, I’m going to die.
My head spun wildly, and then everything went black.
Back at the hotel, I pocketed a couple of tiny bottles of rum before heading into the hallway “to smoke.” I took my trip journal with me to write poetry, and plopped myself down on a landing in a stairway of the ritzy London hotel.
These were not my normal drinking circumstances.
Two tiny bottles weren’t going to last long, and I was completely alone, though I could feel New Year’s Eve in the air, even in the stairwell. Doors opened and closed, people occasionally bounding past me in the stairwell yelling “Happy New Year!” in the most adorable accents ever.
The writing in my journal was despondent. I had one tiny bottle left to last me the rest of the night, so I snuck back into the hotel room, leaving my journal on a table. It was dark; everyone was trying to sleep. I didn’t know if it was safe to take another bottle so I quietly grabbed another pack of cigarettes, and went back to my spot in the stairwell.
A guy leapt over me with a smile yelling “Happy New Year!”
American, I thought. “Happy New Year,” I replied somberly.
The guy leapt back up the stairs to where I sat. “Are you American?” he asked.
“Yeah.”
“You should come to our party!” he said. “All the Americans are partying on the fourth floor!”
“A party?”
“A party! It’s NEW YEAR’S EVE!” He started running down the stairs again. “I’ve gotta get some ice,” he yelled as he disappeared.
He left me there.
Even after two beers and two mini-bottles, I was not walking into any party alone.
But when the same guy bounded past again with two buckets full of ice he said, “Are you still here? C’mon! We’re on the fourth floor!”
“Okay,” I said – and I followed him.
Within two minutes, I was in a hotel room with a hundred of my new closest friends, and enough free alcohol to feed all the people in London.
Finally. I could drink the way I wanted to drink!
So I drank and drank and drank and somewhere in the middle of my holiday blackout, I started making drunken phone calls to Larry.
Larry was playing with his band at Paul’s Place for New Year’s Eve, so I called the bar. “Happy New Year!” I screamed into the phone. “I’m calling from London! Can I talk to Larry?”
Since it was earlier in Pennsylvania than it was in London, the band hadn’t even started playing yet. Larry got on the phone; I drunkenly screamed “Happy New Year!” at him.
The night is a blur, except for endless phone calls made from a stranger’s hotel room. In 1987 – or 1988, as it was in London – long-distance charges were astronomical, and even more expensive when using a hotel phone.
I did not pay for these phone calls. As the night progressed, Larry kept hanging up on me, so I kept calling back. I called maybe forty times.
After the sunrise, I wandered into my family’s hotel room. They were awake, showered, and wondering where I’d been.
Obviously I was wasted and hadn’t slept one minute. But I insisted on calling Larry again.
“I’ll pay for it!” I slurred. “I just need to tell him Happy New Year!”
As if.
“We’ve got to go,” Mom said. “Get your suitcase.”
“I have to call him!” I demanded. “Just give me five minutes!”
My parents were not happy to wait.
And five minutes cost me $50.
Then I slung my purple duffel over my shoulder and followed my family to the airport.
New Year’s Eve was always a reason to celebrate, and my dad knew that if I’d been at home, I would have been drinking somewhere. So he truly believed he was helping me by ordering those two pints at the British pub. He thought we’d have some bonding time, a real daddy-daughter experience, right in the heart of London-proper on one of the biggest nights of the year.
I felt conflicted. Part of me wanted to drink more than anything in the world. The other part really, really didn’t want to drink with my dad. My parents never drank when I was growing up; this was something I did independently, knowing it was frowned upon by my family’s upper echelon. I wasn’t sure how to go about drinking with my dad – but the desire for alcohol beat down that thinking pretty quick.
Two gulps in and my brain sighed with calm. I felt that familiar pleasant buzz.
I tried to sip my pint of “lager” the way my dad did, but my dad drank so slowly! My beer was gone before he was even half done with his.
“You don’t drink very fast,” I said.
“Do you want another one?” he asked. He flagged down a guy with a tray, who brought me another pint. By the time my dad was done with his first, I was done with my second.
I was ready for my third.
Dad said, “This was fun! We’ve got a flight to catch in the morning, so let’s head back to the hotel now.”
It wasn’t even 10:00. On New Year’s Eve.
My thoughts raced, screaming: I’m not even drunk yet! The new year doesn’t even start until midnight! I thought we were going OUT! Two beers??! Why would anyone drink two beers??! I drink more than that just to get ready to go out! I want to stay at the pub! I HAVE to stay at this pub!
My dad cutting me off after two beers felt like a severe punishment, and I had no idea what I’d done to deserve it. Hadn’t I sat quietly enough in the bar? Hadn’t I tried to sip slowly? Was the beer too expensive here? What if I offered to pay? Could my dad could go back to the hotel and come and get me later?
I wanted to be screaming with the throngs in Trafalgar Square!
Really, I just plain wanted to scream.
“We can’t go back now!” I tried. “We just got here!”
“We’ve got to leave at 8 a.m.” my dad explained. “We’re going to France! We’ve got to get some sleep so we don’t miss our flight.”
Non-alcoholics don’t generally understand the “phenomenon of craving” in the alcoholic, since non-alcoholics literally don’t have it.
But I have it in spades. One drop of alcohol in my system makes my entire being – soul, body and mind – beg for more, as though my very survival depends upon it.
And I’d had two whole beers. I wanted to keep drinking – as I usually did – until I passed out.
“Okay,” I told my dad. What choice did I have?
My manipulative mind was racing when I remembered the tiny bottles of alcohol I’d seen in our hotel room. Surely no one would know if I took a couple of those when we got back to the hotel.
Whew. I felt slight mental relief.
Then I sulked as we made our way through crowds of ecstatic celebrators doing exactly what they wanted to do … as I was dragged away from all the excitement so I could “sleep.”
The first few days in London were rough for me. They were substantially rougher for my family.
I hadn’t been without a drink in a very, very long time. A day hadn’t passed in two years that I didn’t imbibe, so as I withdrew from alcohol I was – to put it mildly – a bit irritable. I snapped at anyone who tried to interact with me. I complained about everything. I detested everything we did, everything we saw, everything we ate, everywhere we went. I griped incessantly. I whined and moaned.
And while alcohol withdrawal was a major portion of my poor attitude, I believed to the core of my being that my family was responsible for all of my problems, so I believed they deserved what I was spewing.
Some of the rage I tossed at my family may have been a normal response to growing up. But most of it came from completely avoiding any introspection. I refused to process what was happening inside me during the years that I drank.
I never, ever blamed myself.
Since I couldn’t see what I’d been doing to myself, I blamed my parents for everything that was wrong in my life. My dad had taken a job when I was 14 that required the family to move from my beloved hometown, and I had never forgiven him for moving me one too many times.
It was his fault that I was who I was, how I was, what I was.
I blamed my mom not only for putting up with this obscene injustice caused by my dad’s job choices, but also for continuing to point out all the good in the situation – any situation. I refused to see the good, and doubled down on the crappy hand I’d been dealt. Whenever an upbeat or encouraging word passed through Mom’s lips, I growled at her, insisting that things were much, much worse than she could possibly comprehend.
Without alcohol, all of these childish torments came back with a vengeance. I subconsciously played this relentless blame game every time I was near my parents; it should have surprised no one when my complaining started – and didn’t end.
It was my dad’s idea to include me in this trip to London, though I didn’t know it at the time. I have him to thank for the moments and events that followed – many directly, some indirectly – and I am certain that, by the end of Day One, my dad would have rather I’d stayed in the United States.
I complained constantly while remaining stone-cold sober for five. whole. days.
By Day 6, I’d generally ruined everything we did on our only-ever family trip to Europe. And my dad, who would have done anything in the world to make me happy, had one grand gesture left, one last-ditch effort to make me grateful for everything.
It was the night before we were scheduled to fly to Paris for a three-day French adventure.
And it was New Year’s Eve.
My family was staying in a hotel in London near Trafalgar Square, the “Times Square” of London. Trafalgar Square was insane. I’d never been to New York on New Year’s Eve but now I was enmeshed in a world of wild wonder, where all the young British punks I adored were out in full force to celebrate.
Everyone was drinking.
My dad, who had already provided me with the trip of a lifetime, had one more idea.
He said: “Let’s go to a pub!”
And for me, that was the very beginning of the absolute end.
After living with Larry for two and a half years, I was a bit terrified to be stepping back into the Moore family. I had no idea what would be required. Was I still a child in their eyes? I felt grown.
But my family had never been happy about my way of life – meaning, the way I drank. Would I be able to drink in London since I was a legal adult in the U.S.? Would I have to follow my parents’ rules? Would I be spending time with them exclusively or could I do whatever I wanted?
Fortunately for all of us, I wasn’t moving into their home. I was traveling to London – a place I’d dreamed about seeing since I knew it existed. I didn’t care about Queen Elizabeth or royalty, or Big Ben or ancient architecture. I cared about The Cure, Rod Stewart, David Bowie and The Rolling Stones. And oh, those accents! I could hardly wait to hear everyone speaking British-English.
I was also very, very excited to see double decker buses.
But I was terrified about hanging out with my family again. I didn’t want to live like I’d been living, but I didn’t want to hear about that from my parents. I didn’t want to see the disappointment in my parents’ eyes, or hear it in their voices.
I rode with Larry to the airport. I did not drink. I wanted to smoke as much as I possibly could in the car. No one in my entire extended family smoked cigarettes, either.
We parked the Camaro and walked inside the airport together, Larry carrying my purple duffel. As we approached my parents, I was super-conscious of his sound: the jangling of the chains that held his wallet, the boots ever-clomping on the floor. He was too loud; he didn’t fit.
I kissed him goodbye quickly, wanting to separate myself from him, anxious to get started on this trip. As my parents, sisters and I turned toward the airport gate, a huge part of me was happy to see Larry walk away.
“There goes my one life,” I mumbled to my mom, nodding toward Larry as he strode away, chains still slapping his thigh. “And here I go to my other one.”
I felt like I’d been torn sharply in half, a paper doll with a dotted line down the middle. And only half of me was headed to London.
My mom glanced up, only partially understanding, just hoping we’d all get to our plane on time. With her free arm, she squeezed my shoulders.
“We’re going to have a good time,” she said.
I did not believe her. I didn’t know what to believe. In a billion years, I couldn’t have imagined what was going to happen to me in England.
I had no idea that England would hit me like a runaway freight train … with an angel as its engineer.
Just as I started giving in to the notion of being stuck forever in Pitcairn with Larry, something strange happened.
My mom called.
I could count on one hand the number of times my family had called since I’d moved out. She announced: “Your dad got a Fulbright scholarship!”
Not knowing what “Fulbright” meant, I completely ignored my dad’s unprecedented achievement and didn’t even ask why it mattered.
“Okay,” I said, pulling the phone away from my ear so I could reach my cigarettes.
“He’s going to be working at The Open University,” she said excitedly. “Near London!”
Again ignorant, I knew nothing about universities being open or closed. “Uh-huh,” I said.
“So we’re going to England. We’re leaving right after Christmas.”
“Okay,” I said again, frustrated. I had no idea why this should matter to me.
“We’re going to live in Europe for three months, and stay at a little house near the university.”
I lit my cigarette and waited. The trip she was describing sounded like a dream. I’d always wanted to go to England, listen to those cool accents and instantaneously transform into a London punk rocker. She talked about travel and London and a place called “Bath” which seemed like a strange name for a town. I was pondering the lame name when there was a pause long enough for me to speak, but I had no idea what to say so I stayed silent.
My mom took a deep breath. “We’d like you to come with us,” she said.
I was struck dumb.
My thoughts smashed into one another in my brain: I want to go to England! I can’t spend that much time with my parents. When would I drink? I’ve got to get out of here! I want to be part of a family again. I’ll never be part of that family again. I have to work! I can’t stand Larry. I want to go to England!
Finally I said, “Is Larry invited?” Because if Larry was going, that would be a no-brainer. I could never combine my two worlds for that long. I would have to stay in Pitcairn.
“No,” my mom said, prepared. “Tracy and Kelli aren’t taking anyone either. It’s just for family.”
Family, I thought wistfully.
“Can I think about it?”
“Sure,” said Mom. “We’re going to buy the plane tickets this week, so can you let us know by Friday?”
“Okay,” I said.
I thought and drank and thought about my parents’ offer. I talked to Larry about it. (“I don’t know why they didn’t invite me,” he’d said. “I am your fuckin’ family!”)
I talked to my friends at work about it. (“A Fulbright!” they’d said. “That’s so exciting!”) My boss said I could take all three weeks of my vacation time in January if I wanted to go to England.
I thought and drank and thought some more. Thursday after work – which was technically Friday morning – I got plastered.
On Friday I woke up hungover and irritable, as usual. I walked into the kitchen to chug some Diet Coke and stepped on something painful in the middle of the kitchen floor. Fuck! I removed the bolt from my bare foot and threw it at the wall.
I’ve got to get the fuck out of here, I thought.
I called my mom.
“I want to go,” I said.
“That’s great!” she said.
Her chipper voice made me wary of my decision, but it was made. I was going to spend three weeks in England.
A little voice echoed inside my brain: How will you drink?
