She is Breathtakingly Beautiful.

Shane got into the car and announced, out-of-the-blue, “I have a new date for the dance.”

“You do?” Having been recently dissed by a good friend, I thought he’d never ask out another girl – even though Shane is only 10 and the “dance” isn’t likely to be a hoppin’ event.

“Yeah,” he said. “I asked Lilly if she would go with me and she said sure.”

Lilly has been his friend for two years. She came to his birthday party one year and I could hardly stop staring at her. She is only a little kid, but she is breathtakingly beautiful. She has long, dark hair and gorgeous dark eyes. Her skin is unblemished and her smile is perfect.

“You asked Lilly?” Dylan interrupted. “So let me get this straight. You were going to the dance with somebody else, and then you were just going with your friends, and now you’re going with the best looking girl in your whole class?”

Being in middle school, Dylan notices these things.

“Yeah,” Shane said, utterly non-plussed.

We don’t place a lot of value in external appearance in our home. Or at least, neither Bill nor I take a lot of stock in our own appearance. Bill cares a little more about how the house looks than I do, but overall, the way something or someone looks is not our first concern.

In middle school, of course, the way someone looks is top priority. Dylan started patting down his hair somewhere in the middle of fifth grade. By the end of sixth grade, he had developed something of a style. His current girlfriend, he says, is “the most beautiful girl in her class, and maybe in the whole world.” So it matters more to him now than before.

Shane, on the other hand, has always had a sense of style – but never cared about how anyone looks. Quite honestly, I don’t think he cares how Lilly looks, except that he appreciated that Dylan took note.

I think he likes Lilly because she’s nice to him. She’s nice to everyone, but Shane seems to appreciate it more than most kids.

Shane chooses his friends – and now his dates – based on the quality of their character. I can only hope he’ll continue using that gorgeous gift well into his middle school years.


  1. Kirsten says:

    So true, so true. Sometimes it’s just ME who worries – Shane has come out of it like a trooper!

  2. loerrie says:

    Told you he’d get over the crushing disappointment you described when his first “date” abandoned him. He is an amazingly resilient kid, remember that Kir.

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