His Behavior Has Been Impeccable.
After a week without electronics, it was hard to remember why I’d grounded Dylan. I had to keep reminding myself that he’d done this terrible, dishonest thing.
Without Kik and Snapchat and Oovoo monopolizing his time, Dylan rediscovered his brother. He spends hours and hours and hours playing with Shane. They make up games and get creative and build things and invent things and talk and talk and talk. They hang out together.
His behavior has been impeccable. His teachers aren’t complaining. There have been no more suspensions or calls home. He studies and does his homework, and makes sure his work is actually turned in on time. He hasn’t had a new “zero” in weeks.
He is acting a bit like a young adult.
Sometimes he gets frustrated – like when he decided to make an electronic bird caller out of Shane’s Kindle, and was reminded that a Kindle is an electronic device, even if it belongs to Shane, and even if you’re using it to make bird calls.
But for the most part, he’s doing well. We allowed him to go to his church group (which doesn’t seem like un-grounding him, since it’s church). And we took him to see a play at his former middle school, since – long before the grounding – we promised several of his friends that we’d be there. (Those same friends went to see Dylan in his middle school play, too, so I felt justified.)
It’s hard, grounding someone I love so much. It would be much easier if I didn’t care about him at all, if I could just toss him into a corner for a few weeks and ignore him.
But he’s precious and wonderful and brilliant and fun, just like always. And it’s hard to suffocate that in favor of an age-old punishment.
Still, we are sticking to it. Mostly.